Dating Diaries

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Dating Diaries

In order to be in a healthy relationship, you have to know what it looks like. Here are some signs that your bae respects you and your relationship.

You both give each other space. Yes, during those early days of love, you want to spend every minute with your boo, but we all know that being together all the time can be a strain or a sign of control. A healthy relationship is one where you both have space to explore relationships, not just with each other, but with friends and families, too.
You respect each other’s sexual boundaries. From wearing condoms to getting tested for HIV/AIDS and STDs to having consensual sex, a healthy relationship is one where there is a mutual respect when it comes to sex and protecting each other.
You trust each other. Trust takes time, but without it, you don’t have a relationship. Trust means not checking each other’s phone, Facebook and other social media accounts. Trust means believing what each other says. If you have mutual trust, then you have something incredibly special.
You inspire each other to be better. When you are with someone who you think is so great—and that person thinks the same of you—you inspire each other to be better. Whether it’s a better student, more positive person or to work out more, the right person encourages you to be the best person you can be.
You both fight fair. When we fight, sometimes we can hit below the belt with our words. But if that’s the norm—using disparaging and mean words to communicate—that is a sign of a toxic relationship. Learn to listen, think before you react and speak from the heart when you are arguing.
You both keep your hands to yourself. While this may seem obvious, there are still many young folks who think violence is a norm in a dating relationship. A healthy relationship is one that is void of any form of violence—physical, mental and financial. It should be one of the utmost respect.
You hold each other down. Life can get real: from failing an exam, to getting laid off to losing a parent. A sign of commitment and love is being there to support and love one another when times are really rough. If you have that, you have something really special.
You spend quality time together. Yes, sex is a huge part of a romantic relationship, but it cannot be all that you all do. Spending quality time means going out, talking, building a strong connection by bonding and doing activities you both enjoy.
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Kellee Terrell